Suspended in Grace

 
 Life and time seem suspended in an indescribable space.
If I had to name it, I'd call it Grace.
 Finding activities to occupy my parents' time in a rehab facility (Dad0
 and Memory Unit (Mother) finds me coloring pictures, walking in the sunshine hand-in-hand,
watching the birds in the aviary, playing a game of Uno, teaching Dad to play Solitare,
or cutting expired coupons with Mother.
 My father made his first batch of brownies in Occupational Therapy
and took them later to share with my mother.
They met in the hallway.  It was as though they were getting reacquainted with each other.
In a way, they were.


 One day, my son came to visit his grandparents.  In the photo below,
 my father is explaining to Mother who her grandson is.

 In another meeting, Dad showed Mother some of the many, many cards he has
 been receiving since his open heart surgery.
And every day, whether traveling back and forth, sitting quietly in a room
while a parent naps, sitting next to Mother trying to get her to eat,
or watching my father courageously tackle his therapies,
I am suspended in a space I call Grace.
It feels SO natural.  I can't think of anything I'd rather be doing right now.
Watching birds in the aviary...

18 comments:

  1. Sending you a big hug.......You are suspended in Grace.♥

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    1. When I think about it, Deela, I guess we ALL are (suspended in Grace).... It's just that sometimes we lose sight of it; don't realize it; don't appreciate it...

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  2. Morning Rebecca,
    Oh wow, my heart so resonates with yours. I remember only too well the grace that was shed on us when we were taking care of our Mom's in that same type situation. I have never experienced anything like it before or
    since. I was truly amazing................grace! It was funny I went back after my Mother-in-law had passed away, thinking I would just go and visit the workers and some folks that we knew there, I went three times,
    and couldn't find any of Mom' caregivers or the other folks, so decided that the Lord had shut the door on
    this ministry for me. The place just didn't seem the same in anyway, so his grace was clearly lifted.............

    It is a wonderful blessing to take care of those who took care of you.

    By the way, you have a very handsome son.........so nice he came to visit your parents. Will be praying for your dads recovery, I know about that my hubby had open heart surgery 8 years ago, so it is a slow progression, but slow is very necessary at this point. He looks like he is doing well, know you are happy
    about that. Seems like a nice facility where they are, and one thing I found was that the ones who had
    constant visitors seemed to get better care. I used to try to move my time of visitation around so they never
    knew when I was coming, but that I was coming daily............

    Take care and Bless you sweet friend for being such a loving daughter,
    Nellie

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    1. Thanks, Nellie. Coming from one who knows & has had experience, this encouragement is extra-meaningful :)

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  3. I loved the title, and upon reading your first few lines, my heart was already shedding tears. I don't know what the tears are for - nostalgia... a little grieving... certainly joy... eager anticipation for the eternal healing that will eventually be ours. And meanwhile, you are so right, we are all suspended in grace. We owe so much to our parents - they gave us the best years of their lives - and in their sunset years, we do right to give them back a little of what they have so selflessly poured into us. Only a little... we can never fully repay what they have done. We can only pass it on to our own children. Love you lots, dear friend. My heart was so touched reading this post.

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    1. Thank you, Lidia. You captured my heartbeat exactly!

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  4. God bless them both....
    and you, too, my friend.
    Love,
    J.

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    1. ...and YOU, Jackie! You kind of know how this goes, don't you? Wondering how YOUR parents are doing.....

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  5. Nice post. Lovely thoughts. I too am challenged from time to time with the responsibilities of parent care. Thankfully my Mom is doing well right now. It's difficult to be the one who has to make decisions for the care of a parent. My heart goes out to you. The responsibility can seem heavy. But, yes, we are suspended in Grace.

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    1. My siblings also bring assistance "to the table". A brother and sister who are further away each spent several days here & my sister who lives close to me is there frequently, too. In fact, we made it out that today I would go, and tomorrow she will go. We will probably fall into this pattern more in the future. Up to now, it's almost taken both of us -- one for Mother; one for Dad.

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  6. What a precious daughter you are, Rebecca! God bless you for your care and love for your parents. You are keeping the 5th commandment!

    Deanna

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    1. Thanks, Deanna. I can't imagine NOT doing what I do. Just wish I could do more and "fix" it sometimes :)

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  7. It is definitely a holy time...you will never regret what you are doing for your parents. After my father passed on I remember how good it felt to have "no regrets". How did I not know you had a son???

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    1. Yes it IS a holy time.....and yep - 2 daughters and a son :) And he's a good one!

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  8. I tried earlier to leave a comment, but I was using my tablet, and couldn't get it to put in my google account. I did comment on facebook. I know this has been a long and difficult time already; most likely it will not change soon. God bless you and your siblings as you continue this season "suspended in grace". Your parents have been loved and respected by so many people. It is fitting that we should keep them in our prayers.

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    1. Thanks, Donna. The prayers of God-fearing folk are powerful AND effective...

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  9. Hi Rebecca! What a 'grace' to find your blog today! Oh my, this is such a sad thing, but you make so hopeful. What a powerful woman you are in the Lord. Your parents are the most blessed of all, having you as their caring daughter. The patience you need! And you call it grace.

    I could learn a lot from you.
    Such a privilege to be here today. Thank you for sharing such a precious part of your life.
    Ceil

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    1. I hope to "meet" you soon, Ceil! I'm humbled that you find a blessing out of our difficult experience. I KNOW this is part of the Heavenly Father's intent :)

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